Happiness,
true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at
peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you
can be happy. If you have everything the world can give - pleasure,
possessions, power - but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy. Dada
Vaswani
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Happiness and peace of mind are the most elusive in the life
of man, especially in love. Love should however give you these two
things. When in love, you are the happiest person because you have peace of
mind. You know the other person loves you back and therefore have peace of
mind. Only an idealist believes that these things last though. People fall out
of love just as fast as they fall into it. It has been happening since the beginning of time and will continue to happen in future. Am not saying it’s a good
thing to fall out of love and don’t get me wrong, not all marriages are
doomed to fail; some survive the tests of time.
It is childish though to play hide and seek with someone you
have loved for a long time. It's wrong to play with your partner's psychology after you have found love elsewhere. You both deserve happiness and peace of mind. Instead of being selfish, let the other know so that they too can go out and find it. They
should not be your back up plan just in case things don’t work out. “I can
always go back to my wife or husband.” That’s not fair.
I know it takes time for one to accept that their partner is
no longer their source of happiness. It’s not something that happens overnight
but by the time you take things to the next level with the new love, you have
thought hard about it and can no longer hold yourself back anymore. (Some
people though just cheat because they can.) Before you take that step though, you
owe it to the other person to tell them what you feel. Don’t play games with people’s
hearts, it’s not fair. Furthermore,
Karma is a bitch and all is fair in love and war. Tell them you found happiness
elsewhere and it’s time you both moved on. They will definitely get angry and
frustrated at first but they will appreciate the fact that you didn’t play
games with their heart.
If you’re thinking, why should I give up all those years I
have worked hard for this love? Why should I let him or her go? Why shouldn’t
you? If you have to work hard for it, then it’s not love, it’s a job. Why would
you want to stay in a relationship that is no longer based on love, just a
sense of duty? They say our fore fathers had fewer rates of divorce because
they fixed issues. Some issues though cannot just be fixed. (Am sure some of
them stayed in those relationships, resenting their partners until one of them
died.)
We all know that when a cup falls and breaks into pieces, it’s hard to
put the pieces back together. Even if you do, the cup can no longer be the same.
The texture has changed. The cup is no longer a thing of beauty, it’s
different. If the cup does not serve you well and leaks then you either throw it out or store it as keeps sake. You should do the same in love. If it’s no longer bringing you happiness and peace of mind,
let it go.
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